On the 20th July I suffered a ruptured ectopic pregnancy which almost cost me my life. I lost the left tube in the emergency surgery. I am so keen to try again but I am so scared of it happening again.

I found out I was pregnant July 15 2007, my HcG wasn't rising like normal and July 30 I had an ultrasound that showed it was ectopic, I was devastated and it didn't help at all that I saw the baby's heart beating. I had surgery that day, they were able to save my tube. My fiance and I want to start trying again but I am scared to death that it will happen again. Any advice?

Hi

I had an ectopic pregnancy removed on Friday last week unfortunately they had to remove the tube as well, i wasn't informed of what to expect and just discharged from the hospital with no follow up at all. I can't believe the pain I have yet alone the emotional pain I have no idea how to think or feel and everyone just keeps telling me it's for the best! anyone got any tips on how to handles this mixed bag of emotions i'm carrying around????

Thanks for your posting, i have been on a fantastic forum and the ladies are really great don't know if you've been on have a look
boards.babycentre.co.uk there is a forum especially for us girlies who are sad xx

Yeah, I am so grateful too, to know that I am not alone. I have had two ectopics,both on the left. The first time they treated with Methotrexate and the 2nd time they removed my tube.
We are also trying again and it is super scary. Obviously it is stressfull enough just hoping to concieve but then its terrifying to think it might get stuck again. It is that huge unknown.
And what a rollercoaster. I get my period and am happy that it is not stuck and devastated at the same time that I am not pregnant. And then I seem OK for a couple of weeks and then when I am ovulating there is the anticipation and trepidation. All the what ifs, and then each time I have the tiniest twinge I am sure I have another ectopic and here I go again and then I wait and wonder and then, heres another period and it starts all over....ahhh.
And then all the other people that seem to be popping up preggers like they are just taunting us?? What is that. I feel like going to live in a nursing home with all the oldies so I won't have to face preg people, only my luck all the staff would be preggers.....grrr.
Well, sorry for that rant.
Anyone else out there feeling the same??
Thanks and good luck to everyone,
Helly

Thanks kirst12,
I guess I haven't been looking at this page often enough. Thanks for your support. It is really tough.
We are trying again and I am impatiently waiting till next week to test. I just hate how anxious and out of control I feel just not knowing what will happen, whether I will ever have the baby I so dearly want. Oh well, live one day at a time. Good Luck and thanks again for replying.
helly

Hi Kirst12,
I wish you courage my friend. I am just hell bent on another baby. If I have another ectopic I will push DH for IVF, but right now he is not into it. I had my left tube removed and hope my right is OK.
How was yours treated? Methotrexate or lap to remove tube. Did they see any damage? What date in Oct was yours. I had lap for my 2nd on Oct 5th.
Thanks for sharing and being an encouragement. I wish you good luck. Trust yourself, you will know when the time is right!
Hugs,
Hels

Hi Kirst12,
Yeah this is just so hard isn't it? And it is really scary if you feel you weren't looked after by the hospital. When I went in in Oct I hated that I was in the ER. I just wanted to be seen by ObGyn. I didn't feel like the ER doc had the experience. Luckily it all turned out OK (considering?!?!)
The "good" news is that if (heaven forbid) it ever happens again, you will know exactly what is going on!!
Please continue to try to take care of yourself and know that the fear is legitimate but also out of your control. If you are anything like me, that is precisely the problem!!! It helped me to "accept" that some aspects of this are just not in my hands, like it getting stuck again. It is just so hard.
I am seriously considering IVF. They would remove my remaining tube to decrease the chance of another ectopic from the IVF (there is an increased chance, I hear) and then do a transfer. We'll see. I also have heard numerous stories of women going on to have more children naturally following ectopic, so there is hope.
I got AF today so not this month but theres always next?!?!
Have a great day.
Hugs,
Hels