my ,NAME IS EMMA I HAD A ECTOPIC PREGNANCY IN SEPT07 AND JUST FOUNT OUT I'M PREGNANT AGAIN I'M HAVING A SCAN ON THE 16 NOV TO FIND OUT IT THE LITTLE BEAN IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE I JUST WANT TO KNOW IF OTHER PEOPLE HAD ANY PAIN WHEN THE WE'RE FIRST PREGNANT AFTER A ECTOPIC CAUSE I AM CONVINCING MYSELF THAT IT'S AN ECTOPIC AGAIN
Hi Everyone, This is my first time at this, so bare with me. I have a nearly 3 yo son and desperately want another child. I had what was thought to be a m/c in Feb 07, turned out to be ectopic and was treated with methotrexate on Mar 22, 07. After a really long slow wait for my HCG to come down I finally was able to try again and in the 4th month we were successful! I tried to reassure myself through the nervousness that it would be fine and not another ectopic but low and behold on Oct 5, 07, I had laproscopic surgery to remove my left tube (same tube as before). My HCG came down quickly this time and we are trying again. It is so scary. Last month I had pain and was sure I was having another ectopic and then I got my period.... relief and then devastating misery. It is so hard when others seem to get preg so easily. It is SO scary trying again, not sure what the future holds. I have scarring on the right and no one can tell me if it affects my right, and now only, tube. Any advise or words of wisdom, experience, encouragement etc is greatly appreciated. Thanks to all of you who share your stories, they really help. Helly
I too just had an ectopic pregnancy this week Monday and am need of some support... They had to remove the right tube and say getting pregnant shouldn't be a problem... just looking for some words of support during this rough time.
Hi dedo, I am SO sorry for your loss. It is the suckiest thing ever to go through. Please know that it will get better. Please try and ignore anyone who tells you it was not a real baby or pregnancy or whatever, it was your baby and your hopes and dreams. I am so so sorry. Take the best care of yourself that you can. Really spoil yourself. And accept all your feelings, they are all valid. Your hurt is very real. Please take care and know that I will be thinking of you. Big Hug, Helly
Just wanted to say thanks for writing back... You are rigth with everyone though... No one could tell me that it wasn't a huge loss, because I sure do feel it as one. It is amazing to think of how much you can love something without even seeing it.
I had an ectopic the end of March. We have been trying for 4 months now without success. I would like to hear more stories about others who have been thru the
same thing...either with a successful pregnancy or not.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss but glad that you have found Babyloss. The ladies here are very supportive and knowledgeable and I hope you get a lot of
comfort from this site.
I have not had an ectopic pg myself, but I have had five losses over the past 5-6 years. With regards to ttc again, four months is not that long, although I
know it must feel like ages. I remember being desperate to get pg again as soon as possible after my mc's. Do you use ovulation predictor kits
(OPK's) or take your temperature, to check you are at the right time?
This part of the forum is a little bit quiet, there is a Trying to Concieve (TTC) section which is busier and the ladies there are very supportive.
Here's my story. I have a beautiful 4 year old son. He was born just over a year after my first ectopic pregnancy. This past year my husband and I have
decided that we'd love to add to our family. I became pregnant in March, and had an emergency tube removal after an ectopic had began to rupture. I was
told that I still had good chances of becoming pregnant again, as I still had one tube. Last month, I found I was pregnant again with yet another ectopic, this
time on my right side.... my only tube. I was hospitalized this last week, under watch as they did not want to do surgery and remove my only tube. I was
discharged from the hospital a few days ago, after my second injection, and no surgery. They said that I still had a chance of having a regular pregnancy in
the future, however, we will need to keep a close eye on it starting at 4 weeks after conception due to the fact that I am now 'high risk'. Now I'm
afraid. Afraid that I can't have another child. Afraid that if I try it will end in another ectopic. Perhaps I should look into invitro? Perhaps I should
give up.
Well here is my story, I have an 11 year old and a 17 month old, both beautiful girls. Right before Halloween we found out we were expecting again. We were
shocked, but happy. 4 days later I started having brown spotting, my Dr said that was normal. 2 weeks later it turned red, so I was back at the Dr. I told
him I had pain on the left side, and asked for an u/s. He said that it was probably from implantation and that it was not an ectopic like I thought. He did
bloodwork and sent me on my way. The next night I had heavy bleeding and cramping and was sure I miscarried. I called the office the next day and let them
know. They called back and said my bloodwork came back good, and it could be nothing to worry about. I insisted on an u/s which they scheduled for the next
day. The Dr that was in on that day did a quick scan and told me I had miscarried. She never checked my tubes. She did bloodwork to make sure my levels were
going down and told me to come back in 3 weeks. Almost a week had gone by and no one had called with my lab results, it was the day before Thanksgiving and I
wanted to talk to some one before the office closed for the holiday weekend. I had to place 2 phone calls to finally get a call back that my levels had gone
up not down and was to come it right away for an u/s. The u/s tech spotted the tubal pregnancy right away. By then it was too big for the shots and I was
told to go right to the hospital. Needless to say Iended up loosing my left tube. The Dr. found out while he was operating that my right tube was blocked.
(Possibly scar tissue from my c-section) He was able to unblock it. But now I am also high risk and may have a hard time getting pg again. The tube may
become blocked again or I may become pg with another tubal. I am kind of devastated at this point because I feel like if they had been a little more thorough
in the beginning, they would have found it and I could have just gotten the shot. Anyway, I was wondering how long it took you to get pregnant after your
tubal. It really is a hard thing to go thru and you have a friend if you need one!
Hey Jeannine,
I'm so sorry that you went through all of that. It's so physically and emotionally draining! I'm still going in for blood tests weekly to watch my
HCG levels slowly go down from the shots. :-( It's a nice weekly reminder. Actually, twice a week reminder, the one of getting the labs done, then the next
day getting the results from my doctor. After having my left tube removed in May, I was pregnant again at the end of September. So, it was only a few months
after surgery. I don't know how long it will take after this one, and honestly, I'm afraid of it at this point. They don't know if there's an
actual blockage or not after this ectopic. If you ever need anything... just yell my way. I'm definately an understanding ear on this subject.
~Lynn
I had a tubal reversal in 2007 and in July of 2008 I found out I was pregnant. At 5 weeks I had a miscarriage. In March of 2009 (just a couple weeks
ago). I found out I'm pregnant again!! Right at the time I would have been due with the last baby if I didn't lose it. Well any way at 6 weeks I started having pain and ended up having surgery this past Friday, to remove an ectopic pregnancy. My doctor told me
before I went into surgery that he would probable have to take my tube. After the surgery (which he went in with a camera and looked at my tubes)he was
pleasantly surprised that my tubes looked great. GLORY to God!! I was just wondering if there was anyone else who was going through the same thing??
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Hi I had a tubal reverse in the Feb 2008. I found out I was pregnant in March 1st and it was ectopic. They removed my right tube. I'm just really scare of
trying again. It hurt so much (emotionally) that I don't know if I want to go thru this again. I have 3 children (19-16-15) and they were very sad with our
loss. My daugther wrote a letter to our baby and I would like to share it with you, since I know most of you are going thru the same pain.
God bless
Catalina
Dear Little One
...you didn't get to smell the flowers, or pull the petals from their stems. You didn't get to run through puddles, or feel the rain carress your
skin... I didn't get to hold your hand, or pick out what features on your face looked like mine...
i didn't get to teach you one plus one, or that d-o-g spells dog, and that our cat is silly and probably jealous that we all love you more.
I didn't get to buy you tiny clothes, and i didn't get to see a picture of you inside of mama. It must have felt safe in there...i wish i remembered
what it's like.
I didn't get to know if you were a little princess or a little prince, but i know that i would have called you little one, no matter which you were.
Im sorry that you didn't get to see the sunlight and that i never got to read to you, or wake up in the middle of the night because of your crying. But i
guess that's a selfish thing to think, because why would you want to feel any of those things when you're somewhere better, held by someone stronger
and more radiant than the sun, with a softer more beautiful smell than any flower.
I think we'll miss you, but likely you won't miss us, and that's ok, you weren't meant to.
I know how you feel !! God said yes when you had your tubal reversal. Also remember God teaches us through our trials. The bible says to count your trials
as precious as gold.
He is refining us, transforming us into the image of Christ. Ourselves and our children can learn valuable lessons from loss. We learn to trust God with
our lives. After all, it's His will not ours. Don't give up!! God keeps His promises. Keep praying and He will give you the desires of your heart
as long as they are in His will. God bless you Cat and your family!!
Wow!! Thank you so much for your reply. God has been good to us all along and I know that His plans are perfect. I'd been feeling a lot better. He has
giving me His peace.
God bless you and your love ones too.
Catalina
Hello everyone. I feel so relieved to have found this group. This is my first time here, so have patience with me ... My husband and I have been married 15
years, we have four beautiful children 14, 13, 11, and 9. I got a tubal ligation after our 4th baby thinking that we didn't want anymore children. We were
wrong. After 3 years of talking about it, I went and got a tubal ligation reversal in April of 2008. I found out I was pregnant in August of 2008 and our
entire family was ecstatic! I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks.I have never been so sad/disappointed/depressed in my life. My due date for that baby would have
been the 14th of this month. The bleeding for that miscarriage lasted the same as a regular period, then about 6 weeks later I started spotting again. I
thought I was going to start my cycle, but the spotting continued. After a couple of weeks of spotting I just felt that something was wrong. I took a pregnancy
test and it was positive. I went straight to the doctor and found out that I had got pregnant two weeks after the miscarriage. They monitored my hcg for a week
and then did an ultrasound. The pregnancy was ectopic. I was heart broken again. I was told to come back to the hospital the next day for some blood work and a
methotrexate injection. The next morning I went to the hospital and as soon as I got to the lab I was buckled over in pain. My tube burst and I was bleeding
internally. I lost my right tube. My husband and I started trying again three months ago. Our family really wants another baby, but now I'm so afraid that
we aren't able to. I'm looking for some success stories and any feedback. Sorry for making this so long.
Hi Everyone, i hope some of you can help me understand and perhaps offer me some answers. I have an 11 year old son and had no probs during that pregnancy.
Last October i had a blighted ovum so had a d&c. My partner and i waited 3 months and i fell pregnant again. Only i started spotting really early on. I
thought i had miscarried the week after and the drs etc agreed. But then i did not stop bleeding, although light, it was still frustrating. To cut a long story
short i had an ectopic pregnancy and had my right tube removed. i have only just come out of hospital so i don't think it's quite sunk in yet and have
just started my period too. What i was wondering is is there a chance that the keyhole surgery could have caused scarring on my other tube as i am worried. I
got an infection on my right side after my d&c last year and i believ this contributed to what has happened this time. I would also love to hear from
anyone that has gone on to have a baby after suffering from an ectopic before. Many Thanks.